Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy REBT

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy REBT – My Notes

REBT (Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy) Practitioner Certification – Beginner to Professional

ABC of REBT Therapy




Somebody activates your thinking by a emotional event which is when you start believing possible irrational beliefs and the consequences are that you think you can or cannot do something.

Pre requisites and pre supposition

Flexibility of thought.Your thoughts must be flexible. Reactionary type of behavior.

Human beings are fallible but not broken

None of your clients are broken. 

Accepting ourselves and situations

Don’t judge others. Give space and opportunity.

Good Psychological and mental health. No making excuses and blaming others

Unconditional acceptance

Changing irrational beliefs

Challenge beliefs to change. 

Core rational

Change is not in therapy room

Clients will have to change themselves


You cannot fix anybody

If you want more – take more action that allow you to do it.

Distinction of Good emotional health

Take responsibility of your own behavior

Discover the joy in taking calculated risks

Therapeutic relationship

Freud personality emotion model

Emotional mindID – people who don’t careSelf worth – high

Intelligent mind and Ego-good moral and values

Intelligent mind and Calculated risk
Analytical mind and Super ego

Can’t do this and that

Over analyse

Self worth – low

Albert Ellis??

Labelling people and box people as someone – depressed, ADHD, Libran

Responsibility is the ability to respond

Emotional mind, Intelligent mind, Analytical mind

Consequences of ABC

People talk about consequences first

Expecting to be treated fairly like we want to treat others

Unhealthy negative emotions

Anger, anxiety, stress etc.

Healthy anger can help you change, but unhealthy anger will not help you change

Emotional consequence – overthinking

Meta emotional consequences – where are we going

Limiting beliefs – maybe because of experience

Note to self: add business and investing in your syllabus – also invest in your self – what is investing? Meta model – NLP

Activation and triggers – what triggers delimitation?Situational activation and critical activation

Events that create emotions and limiting ideas eg. Someone’s death or some event that happened years ago

Perpetuating beliefs

Perpetuating rational beliefs

Negative and inflexible beliefs

Taking conscious decisions

Repetition creates skills – also creates confidence

Trying to find approval of everybody – not possible. Do you want to please everyone?I Should never be angry. Is that possible?I Should never be depressed. Is that possible? Are you good enough. Will you ever be?

Others should treat me fairly. Is that right?

Should be right every time. Nobody should criticize me. I don’t like to be corrected.I should get what I want when I want it.

Things should always go their way.Can’t deal with situations. I am super human.Helping children all the time.

Are you good enough?You feel good enough most of the time. But when you don’t you stop yourself.The positive good enough – don’t be a perfectionist.The negative good enough – don’t hold back.Is it knowledge? Then get it.

Situational events. Getting upset at situations and events and then colouring everything negatively. Example all women are bad. All men cannot be trusted. All Muslims are terrorists.

Perpetuating beliefs. Like a box of beliefs they keep. They will not change their belief. 
If you are focusing on something and although you believe it is bad then you will never be able to avoid it even after trying.

My notes: there are 3 types of people. One who will run away from any challenge. 2 people who will fight the challenges in which they are thrown but will avoid other challenges mauve because of the comfort zones. Other who are constantly putting themselves up for challenges.

Subjective unit of distress SUD

Subjective unit of experience SUE

Albert Ellis
Do we have patterns and daily routines that hold us back.
Doing the same things but expecting different results.Contributing selflessly Being a role model